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VJ Denise’s Thoughts on 16 & Pregnant Episode 2 – ‘Farrah’Posted November 29th, 2009 At 11:30 am By MTV ASIA
Hey my peeps! How did you like the 2nd episode of 16 and Pregnant?
Totally different from the premiere episode huh?
16 & Pregnant - Ep 2 - Farrah
This episode, we have Farrah, a popular and pretty cheerleader with huge dreams, who was confronted with so many issues when she became pregnant. You would think because she was popular and part of a team of cheerleaders, she would have a huge support system…
WRONG.
Rumours had been flying around for awhile thanks to a leak from one of her best friends. When it was confirmed, everyone except Tyler stood by her. The rest just bitched behind her back.
From the top of the food chain, she was being relegated to the bottom rungs of the social ladder and the butt of many jokes. It got so bad that she had to transfer to the local college to finish her senior year.
Even simple dating was a no-go. The guy at work, Roberto, bailed on her. Face it ladies. Being six months pregnant is not a very attractive quality to guys who mostly do not want the hassle of a child. Especially in their youth.
Teens are smart, trust me. They are not stupid. But I think that many do not have the sensitivity and maturity level to see that ‘Hey, this is a serious problem. How can I be there for a friend? A friend whom I see as a close confidante.’
In this episode, the father of the child is not featured but her family and close friends were.
16 & Pregnant - Ep 2 - Farrah
Farrah’s mom is shown as the puppet master of her life and not being sensitive to Farrah. So much so, Farrah cracks under it all.
The anguish, the disappointment is not only seen in Farrah but in her mom as well.
Think for a moment here guys what her mom goes through with her friends. Everyone is talking about her 16 year old daughter having a baby. In hushed tones. That cannot feel any good either!Her mum tries her best to be supportive but in a way which many do not understand. And can be seen as uncaring at times. I personally think it is the communication barrier which makes her inaccessible to not only Farrah but the people around her.
1) She offers the idea of adoption not because she does not want to have the child, but because she was thinking of Farrah. Having to bear the brunt of motherhood at such a young age is taxing!
2) She hid her fear well by telling Farrah that the baby will “shoot out like a banana out of a banana peel while asking Farrah not to ask such embarrassing questions”. Ouch…
3) When asked whether she could help with Sophia, she said she needed her sleep. (Think about it, if she offered too much help, would Farrah become too dependent and shrink from her responsibilities?)
Personally, I think Farrah has a very strong personality. She obviously cannot stand obsessive personalities, and thus broke up with the father of her child and also broke down under her mom’s obsessive hold over her.
16 & Pregnant - Ep 2 - Farrah
However, there are some funny moments where in her quest to know more, which threw up some funny moments.
“I do not plan to be puffed up because of pregnancy.”
“I do not plan to breastfeed as they will make my breasts sag”
Hold your horses people. Even celebrities are not immune to the effects of childbirth!
Imagine what was going through her mind when the doctor said that pregnancy would do that and not breastfeeding.
It is also interesting to see that she was actually embarrassed that people were looking at her crotch during childbirth. Remember guys, she is only 16!
Two different scenarios. Before she realised she was pregnant, all she could think about was parties, the prom and mugging for senior year finals. After having Sophia, it was basically all about work, Sophia and more Sophia!
Which do you think appeals more?
Of course, pregnancy does give you slightly saggier breasts and your body being puffed up for a considerable period of time.
Your choice people.
16 & Pregnant - Ep 2 - Farrah and Sophia
In the US, there is the notion of freewill, thus allowing Farrah to make the decisions of keeping the baby. However, bear in mind that it is a whole different playing field in most parts of Asia. In Asia, parents are the decision makers. There have been cases where abortion is a popular choice. Or the halfway house. Or even forcing the teen to have the child at home, hiding her from any public scrutiny.
’16 and Pregnant’ shows you how tough it is to be a mom at 16. However, we do not glorify teenage pregnancy and the show is about empowering you guys, the youth, to make education decisions before taking a step which can change your life in a way you do not expect nor want.
A few questions for us to think about
1) If you were in Farrah’s shoes in school, how would you have dealt with it?
2) Do you know anyone who was pregnant while in high/secondary school? What was your reaction?
3) Do you think parents in Asia are able to give the same level of support?Flood me with your comments! They are amazing! Love hearing from you guys!
Xoxo,
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I didn’t finish the whole blog, but judging from the first three paragraph, I’m on Farrah’s side. Sure she wasn’t responsible and messed up—-big time, but what about the things she’s been going through for those 9 month? The guy ditching her is bad enough and she really didn’t need her best friend doing the same thing too. This did affect her life, but she learned—a lot. Life goes on, and that’s what she’ll do. Farrah will be a great mom, i know she will.
It was my first time watching this show as I missed the premiere. However, I like it because teenage pregnancy has become a global issue.
Ths episode was really an eye-opener for me. It taught me how difficult it is to be a Mum at a very young age as you would have to first handle the bitching people would give you, get support from many people and then juggle everything by yourself.
Farrah, was being very strong in handling all the criticisms, teaching me that at the end of the day, it is my life, and I shouldnt bother so much about what people have got to say. Her parents were also being very supportive towards her, which I doubt in Asia would be easily gained.
All in all, I like the show and will be watching the upcomng ones as I am interested in knowing how different individuals deal with this situation.
Thanks Denise!
I have watched the first premiere and this second episode, and I think the second is better than the first by a lot actually.
I liked how this episode shows the problems she needs to face, the decision she has to make, and how the others were teasing her. The frustration built up between her and her mother, these can all be related to.
However, what I think that should be added to make the show more interesting, which I think is also quite necessary, is that the person in question ought to tell us how come they got pregnant, and what was their reaction, and how they reacted to it when they first found out.
They need not tell us in detail, but it would help.
Was it because it was their first time?
Was it because it was just that every one time they didn’t use a condom?
Was it because they were both drunk, and didn’t know what they were doing?
I’d really like to know.
And, it seems that from the two episodes, it’s as though the two girls didn’t mind being pregnant, is that how a normal teenager would react to? It would be good to see, and to know how they first felt, and how their parents reacted to that.
It would be good to let us know the things we have to take note to prevent being pregnant at 16, if they told us how they became pregnant, aside from letting us know what they had to go through everything from the beggining to the end of labour.
Anyway, I feel that the show is good. It shows the growing problem of underage pregnancy.
Thanks Denise
The addition was just a suggestion.
i love your show to and i know u girls are smarter than that but all u girls have to think about is ur children and they arew your most pride and joy in this world to you and just make sure that they are safe with u cuz where i live you would not want your kids by their selves trust me i watched they news and this guy kiddnaped a little girl and kept her in his back yard for 18 years and she had twoo kids that were his kids but they made it out of there alive but it was pretty scary so anyways have fun and enjoy life while u are here
hey u tennage girls i bet u think its hard having kids when u didnt finish school first or getting married but atleast u have a kid but advice is u probably should have waited intil u got through school and got married before u had children cuz ur responsibility should come first before boys cuz all they are is snakes they want to get in ur pants and u guys should have stepped up and said no im going to wait for the right guy and u should have just say no and if they still try then u tell them back off if u dont like wat i want then leave me alone and go find someone else cuz i dont wanna do it with u ok but even though u girls had kids i still think ur beautiful,smart,and funny i love u girls and be safe ok and my name is sunnie doyle ok so plz dont forget my name